Three myths about bisexual people de-bunked to mark Bi Visibility Day


Blogger Emma Campbell debunks three myths about bisexual people to mark Bi Visibility Day.

Bisexuality is the wonderful reality of people romantically (and sexually) attracted to multiple genders. This differs from pansexuality in the sense that pansexuality is an attraction to every gender identity, whereas bisexuality is an attraction to two gender identities.

Commonly bisexuality is used to refer to those that are attracted to people of the same, and opposite gender. However, it is important to note that there are more than two gender identities, and as such bisexuality is the attraction to any two gender identities.

To mark Bi Visibility Day, I’m going to debunk 3 common myths about bisexuality to set the record straight (no pun intended).

Myth 1 – we’re promiscuous

Bisexual people are often labelled as being sexually promiscuous, after all, they are attracted to two genders, so doesn't that increase the number of people they would have sexual relationships with?

Well, yes and no. Sure there are bisexuals who have a high number of sex partners, however, that is true of nearly every sexual orientation (excluding asexual people). There are also a high number of bisexual people who have not had sexual relationships with anyone, or just a small number of people. However, in the grand scheme of things, as long as the sex is consensual and safe, both people are of age, then the number of sexual partners someone has should not matter.

Myth 2 – we’re confused and seeking attention

Bisexual people are also often labelled as being sexually confused, or attention seeking.

Whilst it is true that there are a lot of people who are confused about their sexual orientation, who perhaps choose to identify as bisexual because it is the label they currently feel most comfortable identifying as; there are also a high number of people who are just simply attracted to two gender identities. Someone exploring their sexual orientation, and 'coming out' as more than one, should be seen as perfectly normal. As people change and grow, and their understanding of sexual orientation changes, so too can the labels that they identify with. Nobody should be ashamed of that.

Myth 3 – we’re all cheaters

Being bisexual I have often encountered the idea that bisexual people are most likely to cheat on their romantic partner, but where does this notion come from?

Plenty of heterosexual people, lesbian, and gay people cheat on their partners. Bisexual people aren't any worse or better than them. It comes down to who they are as a person, with regard to their morals and personality, not their sexual orientation, that shows whether someone is more or less likely to cheat. People shouldn't be scared of bisexual people, just because there is the silly and ridiculous notion that we are going to sleep around and not be loyal to any particular person.

Bisexuality is a perfectly valid sexual orientation and identity that unfortunately has a lot of myths and stigma surrounding it. However, we can all work together to dispel the myths. With awareness days such as Bi Visibility Day, we can share our stories and experiences, address the misconceptions, and help make people feel safe and comfortable to explore their sexual orientation and identity,  offering them love and support to make it safe to come out, and create a welcoming and accepting space  after they come out. We can all do our part in fighting the stigma that surrounds bisexuality, and we should all do what we can to work together to defeat the stigma.

Emma (19) is a freelance writer; Creative and Digital Media apprentice; and blogger for LGBT Youth Scotland. Find Emma at  www.Campbellxemma.com and follow her on Twitter @Campbellxemma

Download LGBT Youth Scotland's Bisexual Briefing HERE
Check out LGBT Youth Scotland's Bi Visbility Day resources for teachers HERE

This article was also published on Glasgow Live