If you are visiting this website it is probably because you are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender and are or think you may be experiencing domestic abuse. You may also be a friend, relative or colleague of a LGBT person and you are concerned about their relationship with their partner.
If you think you are experiencing domestic abuse, then you have made your first big step to getting help. This website will give you nformation from identifying domestic abuse to what to do in a crisis.
Domestic abuse affects 1 in 4 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.
Domestic abuse affects 1 in 4 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. You do not deserve to be abused and you can get help.
Before exploring the site further you should read our article on web safety if you don’t want your partner to know that you have been using the internet. There is also a HIDE ME! button on every page which you can click if you need to leave the site quickly.
Domestic abuse is a pattern of controlling behaviours carried out by a partner or ex-partner to cause physical, emotional or mental harm:
Domestic abuse is not simply about physical violence. It can take many forms, often over a long period of time, and has a profound impact upon a person's physical, emotional and mental wellbeing.
Sometimes it is difficult to know whether or not you are experiencing domestic abuse.
Often an abusive partner will make excuses for their actions and even blame you for their behaviour. They may also make light of the abuse or tell you that this is what it is like to be in a LGBT relationship leaving you feeling confused. This is how they want you to feel. You never deserve to be abused and you are never to blame for the abuse.
Domestic abuse is rarely discussed in the LGBT community, and you may not have thought that it happens in LGBT couples.
What follows is a list of some of the behaviours abusers may use. Abusers can find many different ways to control you, and you may experience something which is not listed here. This may still be domestic abuse.
Ask yourself some of the following questions. You may experience one or all of them and even if you feel you only experience one on a regular basis this can still be domestic abuse and you can get help.